Recently on my Facebook status I expressed my hatred toward cleaning. The situation was that there was a lot of cleaning and tidying up to be done around my house and I had ZERO motivation to do it. In fact I had the opposite of motivation… repulsion, revulsion. Whichever of those two words is more passionately negative!!
Being an energist, I couldn’t just leave that hatred just sitting there and stay stuck in this stalemate with housework. I could at least attempt to evolve it a little, right? To hate it a bit less. 🙂
So I used EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and tapped for this. More specifically I tapped for a younger version of me and her experience with being taught what housework and cleaning is.
All of a sudden I ‘got it’.
I needed to redefine CLEANING.
I needed to overwrite old programming by way of what it means ‘to clean’, ‘to do housework’ and ‘to tidy’.
At various points over the space of our lives, we are shown what it means to do housework. We absorb the actions and energy of this experience, and it becomes ‘just how it is’.
For me? Housework had become a stress-laden experience of punishment. That’s ‘just how it was’. And I couldn’t stand it.
My idea of housework was that you HAD TO spend blocks of time on certain tasks and stay doing those tasks until you were done. And ‘housework being done’ means that it’s shiny, clean, perfect.
I felt free to bring in NEW ideas of what housework meant, in ways that were a better fit for me. Such as, it being more than okay to pick up an item, put it where it goes, be in that other room and pick up something there, return it to where it goes and be in a whole other room!
It needed to be okay to have touched those three rooms lightly, in the name of ‘tidying’, and it still being housework.
It needed to be okay to spend 5 minutes on dishes in between other things that came up.
It needed to be okay to seem distracted or unfocused by way of a specific task, yet really just going with the flow of doing things, and getting them done!
I had previously been hesitating doing ANYTHING until I knew I had a block of time available. Needless to say, this meant that things piled up until they were overwhelming and would take even MORE time to get done.
So I ask you to notice how YOU define cleaning for yourself
Does ‘cleaning’ come with it set expectations as to spending a block of time or doing it in a certain way?
Does ‘housework’ mean having a certain attitude or focus about you?
Does ‘tidying up’ indicate that you have to act in a particular way?Does ‘laundry’ mean you have to fill the machine to the brim or spend all weekend doing it?
What are the inner rules to all of these things for you?
These questions might seem silly, but honestly a lot of this goes on subconsciously. I work with energy which includes things like subconscious beliefs and patterns and I still didn’t spot it – I just hated it! It’s totally natural that we just do it how it’s always been done without recognising the giant elephant in the room saying “You know what? I hate this!”.
It’s time to look at the laundry elephants! 😉
I do believe that the act of housework can be an enjoyable one, at least one that doesn’t cause revulsion and repulsion.
Over to you. x